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Originally Posted by FSUZeta
i think that one point some might have missed is that even if the mother did make that statement to her daughter,(and we don't know if she did) it was already said and no amount of chastisement would reverse that. the mom was hurting, and if she did say those things, was probably feeling worse for saying them. gc'ers did not need to kick her when she was down. i hope that she was able to comfort her daughter-it must have been an awful time for both mother and daughter- and i think that the mom shared her feelings with us seeking comfort for herself.
i also wonder if the statement about whether auburn was the place for her daughter was said in the heat of the moment. perhaps she felt that if the sororities felt that her daughter would not fit into their chapters(trying to use her logic), then maybe she would not fit in anywhere at auburn-that she must not be the typical auburn student, since she did not receive a bid. we may not agree with the logic, but i would imagine that when something devastating like this happens-and yes, it can be devastating to some-there is a lot of second guessing that goes on amongst pnm and parents.
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I can understand that, and would give leeway to a PNM, but not a parent in that regard. I'd expect more maturity from a parent than that, heat of the moment or no. And there was no indication that the comment was said and later retracted. If I were the daughter in that situation, I'd be ten times more pissed off at my mother than the recruitment system at Auburn. (yes, I caught up in the reading)
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Originally Posted by AlphaGamUGAAlum
I'm all about posting all the stories: I just don't think the people who do the work of the recruitment thread with code names and reporting results after each round should necessarily have their threads preempted by people complaining and looking for support about the evils of the system at large. Do it. Just do it in another thread. That's all.
I'm fine with general mom support groups or complaint threads about problems at specific campuses. But the "Congratulations, Kate" at the end of the Auburn thread are going to ring a little hallow after all the "SEC recruitment is just so wrong" type of junk in the middle. Why do that?
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A) She asked for other people's experiences. Unfortunately, those experiences turned out to be negative ones. I think that some posters went over board with the "OMG AUBURN SUCKS *mass exodus of PNMs* I wouldn't want to be a part of those groups" thing. (Again, from adults
) That said, it's all part of a discussion about recruitment at a super-competitive well-known school, particularly when many of those involved don't have any experience with SEC recruitment.
I have a feeling that those posters who were ripping on Auburn in general won't be the same ones congratulating the OPs daughter if she gets a bid. And I don't think that it's incongruous to have a negative stories and positive ones in the same thread. Those posters didn't know that their friend/sister/daughter etc was going to get cut when they started posting.