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Originally Posted by Jobellesis
Carnation says I should put my post back, so here's what I think. It hurts a lot more for your child to be hurt than it does if you are hurt yourself. If my daughter's recruitment had been disappointing for her, I would have been extremely negative and bitter. Her rush turned out great, (She's also a Chi O), but I remember being upset because she couldn't understand why she was released from a couple of chapters after the third round. I can entirely see why momto2 is so unhappy and confused. If my child was crying and feeling bad about herself, you'd better believe I'd be upset and mad. I'd also think all those girls were all nuts if they didn't want my beautiful, smart daughter in their chapter. Until you've had a daughter go through, you can only imagine how you would feel if your daughter was rejected, especially when you know that she is just as terrific as many of the girls who received bids.
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Amen! When your daughter calls you and is crying and asking you "what's wrong with me?", well...your heart breaks - into a million pieces. And maybe you don't have the most emotional response and you vent on a public forum out of sheer frustration and inability to fix your daughter's hurt. Should we fix it? Probably not - it's one of life's tough lessons and we all know that it will be okay in the long run. But this is not a rational situation...this is an emotional situation. And nothing tugs at a mother's heart more than our children - both their hurts and their joys.
And, by the way, it doesn't matter if it's an SEC recruitment or the most non-competitive recruitment in the US (or Canada!), when your child hurts...your child hurts.
ETA: I realize the other poster didn't say her daughter was responding in the way I indicated above. I was referring more generally to when a daughter struggles with recruitment and how a mom might react.