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Originally Posted by Momto2gals
When you want something bad enough in life you have to learn to put out 110 percent effort to get it. All I meant was that maybe she didn't put out the effort she should have. I have always pushed my girls to work as hard as they can because that is just a lesson you have to teach your kids in life. To try their hardest at everything. And the other thing I meant was that maybe it would have been easier for her at a different university to get into a sorority. I have not given up on Auburn though. I am sincerely hoping she will find many activities to get involved in on campus. There are a lot of non Greek organizations that she can get involved in if they will let her. I was just under the impression that it was a lot easier to be connected to things if you were in a sorority. I definately don't want her sitting in the dorm all day on the computer or whatever. She is a wonderful girl that has made me very proud. You all don't know her or some of the things she has been through in her life. You don't know what my life has been like either. For her to even be at Auburn is an amazing accomplishment for her. She is just an amazing person and I am not just saying that because I am her Mother. Many people in our community have seen her in that same light. She is disappointed but she isn't giving up by a long shot. I haven't raised her to give up. I hope you all can see where I am coming from. And yes to be in a sorority is a BIG DEAL. If it wasn't a big deal then why bother to go through recruitment. For one thing it will guarantee her a place in a dorm next year which is important also. It will help her make some good quality friends because like I said she is a little shy. And it also teaches one responsibilities, giving to the community, traditions, respect for oneself and others. There are LOTS of reasons to pledge a sorority and honestly I can't think of a single one not to.[/COLOR]
I hope I have clarified a little bit more about what I meant and why I feel the way I do.
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Perhaps your daughter being in a sorority was more important to you than it was to her?
I'm sure that your daughter is a great girl, but if she's saying at the end of her recruitment that it wasn't a big deal that she was dropped, then maybe it really isn't to her and maybe you shouldn't get so bent out of shape about it.
I'm sure she's still feeling bad at the end of the day, even if it really isn't that big of a deal to her (rejection never feels good to anyone, period) and maybe she needs your unconditional support, not you quizzing her on if "she tried her best" and questioning whether or not she should have gone to another school to have a more successful recruitment experience. BTW, the answer to your question is YES: your daughter probably would have had a much easier time getting placed in a "top" sorority at another school but she chose AUBURN, not another school. At the end of the day, that's apparently more important to her than recruitment.
I'm not sure of the exact proportions at Auburn but at other SEC schools Greeks are in the minority. You can't really expect that the sorority connections will make your college experience THAT much easier. Either way, a student has to be willling to take the initiative and really own their college experience. I'm nearly certain your daughter won't sit on her computer all day and become a hermit simply because she didn't join a sorority.
And give me a break: the guaranteed place in a dorm for next year is NOT something you or her should be worrying about right now. The other reasons you listed? Well, you're preaching to the choir on that one, but there are other organizations that offer the same benefits as a sorority.
I know you've had your goodbye "I won't be posting on here again" manifesto, and I'm truly sorry for your daughter that it didn't work out, but I encourage you to take a couple days, chill out and get this in perspective, and update us on what your daughter decides to do (COB, joining activities, whatever). It's up to you.
ETA: Anyway, I'm really sick of this hijack, and I really want to hear how AuburnMom's daughter is doing!!! I hope everything is going well!