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Actually, I think PEO may have secrets (and just to remind everyone, Chapter S of PEO became AXD's Beta chapter!)
I don't think the secrets have much to do with our bond. The secrets you learn in initiation are a natural outgrowth of what is public knowledge. Most sororities have a public creed, and their ritual is right in line with it. It's not like you get there and they say, "OK, now you slaughter the sheep and we tell you what we REALLY believe." While we cherish our secrets, and use them as a way to guide our lives, you would find that most sororities secrets consist of ideas like love, sisterhood, goodwill toward mankind, etc.
Now, in one sense of course, the ceremeny of initiation IS a shared experience. I do have fond memories of several of our initiations. But I also remember rushing, hanging out at Club I, sitting around and gabbing, teasing lil B about not knowing how to put on mascara, watching our hilariously bad sewing skills while making learning dolls, crying to my sisters when my boyfriend and I broke up, eating the raisins in Trouble's Raisin Bran, and the excitement of welcoming new sisters. If we were just initiated and that was the end of it - we didn't spend any time together otherwise - the idea of sisterhood wouldn't mean much. It would just be a resume-building chore.
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