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i come from the opposite side of this situation. my boyfriend isn't greek, and when i started talking about joining a sorority he was not happy. he thought kind of the same things your girl does--that i'd put the sorority before him, become a huge partier again, meet all kinds of frat guys and cheat on him--but i was straight up with him. i tried to be as open as possible about what i was doing (as far as events, not rituals, of course) and when he would get all insecure and clingy i would get tough. i told him that if he was so insecure in our relationship that he would expect me to do all those things, then i didn't want to be with him anyway. thankfully, it worked out well for me in that he thought about what i said and realized it wasn't worth sacrificing our relationship over silly insecurities, but it could have easily resulted in a breakup. if you take my method, you have to mean it. know that if she says she IS that insecure and can't handle it, you have to be ready to stick by what you said. if she feels that's putting your fraternity over her, it's her own problem.
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