[FloridaTish]

I would like to chime in on this one as a mom in my 30's.

I applaud all that you are working to accomplish and wanting to be a positive role model for your girls. However, I think what should be most important to you is getting your degree and being a good mother. I understand wanting to be part of a greek organization, but the time commitment required to be an active member of a collegiate chapter may directly impact your abilities as a mom.

I'm not saying that you can't do both, but I know first hand the amount of time I put into the chapter I advise as an alumna and at times, I feel bad that it is time that I am not spending with my daughter. However the time required for me as an alum is dramatically less than that of an active sister. I couldn't imagine giving up the amount of hours required of an active and choose a social activity over spending time with my daughter.

Yes, moms ar entitled to have a social life, but when you become a mother, priorities change. Maturity has hopefully set in and I can say first hand that there is no way I could go into a social setting with a bunch of 18-22 year olds and NOT feel out of place. I consider my self to be very outgoing and social, but there is just a basic difference in maturity and life experience, where I find myself laughing to myself sometimes, because I feel "old" when I am around them.

I adore my sisters in the collegiate chapter and I love that I can provide guidance, direction and advice to them when it is needed and asked. That being said, could I imagine myself being and active part of the chapter being now in my 30's. Heck no!

You are a mother of two (i'm sure adorable!) little girls...they are your sorority for life and I think that focusing on your studying & being a mom is the best example you can set while finishing your degree...

Best of luck to you!