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Originally Posted by 33girl
I agree w/ TrevorG - if she doesn't trust you to hang out with other girls then you have other problems in your relationship. Not only that, if she just assumes sorority women are going to hook up with you at mixers, then she's either got an offensively low opinion of sorority women or thinks you're a cross between Casanova and Adonis.  |
Sometimes I think it's more "fear of the unknown" than generalized insecurity about other girls. Greek life can be pretty mysterious and nonsensical if you're not involved. I think a lot of independents buy into the idea of Greek exclusivity to the point that they believe that Greeks only want to date/befriend other Greeks, and independent significant others might see mixers as a way for the fraternity/sorority to set his or her boyfriend/girlfriend up with a fellow Greek. Sounds silly to those of us who have actually attended mixers, but really, if your boyfriend approached you under ordinary circumstances and said "I'm going to a party with my friends and a bunch of other girls, but sorry, you're not allowed to come," you might feel a bit suspicious, even if you were the most secure girlfriend in the universe. That's why I think that it's possible for a girlfriend who is uncomfortable with the idea of fraternities, mixers, etc. to come around when she realizes how non-threatening it all really is. Though of course, it's equally possible that she's just generally insecure, and the fraternity pledging will cause an undue strain on/end the relationship. As was said earlier, if that's what will come to pass, better now than later on when the relationship is even more serious.