How would you feel if the guy you was dating had a child with another woman? Mind you he and this woman are very friendly with each other. Because his child lives out of town he usually spends weekends at the mothers.
I am ok with dating a man that has a child. The first thing I would look for is if he actually takes care of his child. If he does then he's aight with me. Now when we get to multiple children then I have a bit of a problem with that. Secondly, he does not have to spend the weekend at the mothers to see his child. I would neva allow my BD to stay with me. OH Heck no. If he is in a relationship with someone else, he definitely has no business staying with the BM.
Would you be willing to date a guy if he told you upfront that he still sees his baby mother but nothing serious? Or would you let it go because in the long run, you think they might work it out?
If by still seeing you mean he sees her only when picking up the child then that's cool. If you mean seeing like they go out together and hang out, naw, because thats them trying to hold on to something that supposedly ain't there.
Also, before you became serious he said you had to meet his baby's mother to see if you met her approval?
thats all I can say on that.
Also can be look at as if you were the baby's momma. How would you feel if he had a girl?
My BD has a woman and I say "THANK YOU JESUS"! I only want him to take care of his responsibilities.
I was talking to my friend this weekend and he cursed me out...because I said no matter what I would always love my child's father because he give me little man. My friend cursed me out and said if I told the average n@gga that, they would think we would still having sex together.
I agree that if you told the average man that, it would send out a red flag for them. I love my BD like I love any of my friends.
I'm just trying to figure out why so many people have a problem understanding when parents remain friends even when they are no longer together. A lot of friends have little if any contact with their child's father and hate on me because my relationship isn't full of hate like theirs.
Its good to stay friendly for the sake of the child. However, staying friendly does not require us to go hang out together, imo.