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Re-Rushing
Hi All
I previously wrote in the section for the sorority that i was interested in but some girls messaged me and told me that it would be best if i wrote on this section and didn't name names, and i have to say, i agree!
Okay so here is my long complicated story:
First semester freshmen are not allowed to rush until the spring, so thats what i did. I went through formal rush last semester. My school only has 5 sororities. When i rushed, i simply feel in love with the "Alpha" house, and i really saw myself fitting in with them. The other three houses Beta, Gamma, and Kappa, i liked, but was not in love with. Then there were the Sigma's. I could sense them rushing me really hardcore. They are one of the smaller chapters, kind of awkward and never ever reach total or get quota, so my school tailors the formal rush system in order to help them get more girls.
Well for pref night, i got invited to Alpha and Sigma only. I was really excited about Alpha, but disappointed that i did not get Beta Gamma or Kappa. But i went to Alpha and Sigma's pref parties anyway.
In the end, i suicided myself and only put Alpha on my bid card. On bid day i went to the greek life office and was told by my Rho Gam that i did not get a bid. My Rho Gam was actually in Alpha. She told me her sisters absolutely loved me.
She also said that Sigma wanted to offer me a bid. No girl put sigma on their bid card, and there were a RECORD NUMBER of suicide bid, and thus a record number of girls who did not get placed. So every single girl that suicided was automatically given a bid to Sigma and about 3 girls actually decided to pledge them. I was not one of those girls. I decided to not to go with a sorority that i was not interested, probably de-pledge and then have to wait a full calender year until rushing again.
My Rho Gam told me to def rush again next semester. Throughout the rest of the semester, her sisters would constantly tell me how much the wished they could have taken me and would invite me to eat lunch with them all the time.
However, last semester, i started hanging out with the Beta girls as well. Even though they didn't invite me to their pref. night, they were super nice to me. I started hang out with them all the time. Going off campus with them and clubbing. I started really feeling a connection with them that i did not experience during rush.
Here is my problem. I am rushing again this upcoming semester for Informal rush and i plan to attend Alpha and Beta events. But i have a lot of concerns:
1. If i get a bid from Alpha and Beta, and accept Beta's bid, how will that make Alpha feel after all the nice things they said to me after rush.
2. If i rush Beta, i fear they might be like: we didn't want you the first time, cant you take no for an answer? Even though i hang out with them does not nec. mean they want me to be a sister....
3. I cannot help but feel bitter that Beta did not invite to pref night. What about me did they not like?
4. If i accept Alpha's bid over Beta, will the Beta girls stop talking to me now?
i am very very confused and i would appreciate any guidance.
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