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Originally Posted by James
Find one you like. Like men, women come in different flavors, sometimes you just have to gag enough times to find one you enjoy.
As far as who you are . . . your personality is just an interface you developed as a child to interact what with the people around you. Its malleable.
I am not saying to act aggressive. I am saying to be aggressive.
We function in a social world, you need to adjust yourself to achieve the type of attention you want from others.
To act in a way that denies you that attention, and then complain you are not getting what you want is insane. And to assume the world is going to change to conform to your inadequacies is just stupid.
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Here's the problem: you might say that your personality is merely an interface, but I have always thought that my personality is born of behavior that people will accept from me, given my physical appearance and nonverbal cues.
For example, if a guy is not particularly good looking or physically imposing, no women or guys are going to accept him if he goes around acting like he's someone great like Bronson Pinchot. They'll cut him right off.
So you sort of adapt the persona that is acceptable to other people around you. It's a reward/punishment process.
And if you still persist in acting out of your "role" given to you by society, then you'll get mired down in a rut... like a motorcycle stuck in the mud.