[MerryGPhiB]

I too wish I had known all of this well, more than 20 years ago. Here is an additional suggestion of what not to ask. How do you compare yourself to XYZ sorority? It sets the PNM up in a potentially negative light and could be reworded as , How does your sorority do in comparison on campus/panhellenically regarding grades ( or whatever topic)?Be more specific with the question about that house vs another. When a PNM asks better questions they will normally get better answers and it will show an organization you are interested in them.

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How do you select your members? What is your selection process? My friend said that because I had mutiple recommendations, that means I get in, right?, Since my grandma, and mom and sister are all XYZ you have to take me, dont you?