Marquise, this is a good question. I will just say that my husband and I (who IS a Nupe) have been friends for many years. When we were done with our "single" ways and ready to be serious we did the damn thing and got married. I have always known that he was my sole mate but I was not always willing to accept the idea. I had to grow as a woman and he as a man for us to make a serious commitment. You have to take your time and be sure because marriage is serious. We both realized that and that was that. On another note, we have a lot of friends that are married and that is pretty much who we surround ourselves with because those are the people whom we have things in common.
We have fun together and apart. We know our roles and we respect each other's individuality because it is important to remember who you are.
Aside from popular belief, marriage can be fun. It is work but it is also well worth it when you have someone who you KNOW for a fact has your back. I love being married...plus my hubby is "fine as hell" so you know that can't hurt either.
