[raggann03]

Discussions like these tend to always leave someone feeling misunderstood or whatever because some important qualifiers are left unsaid. The thing about the man being the lead, etc. etc. Is true, thats biblical, but the one thing that most men forget to also say is this, "In order for me to be the head of OUR household and for you to be the proper helper, God must be the final authority. A man cannot lead except he be led....not to preach here, but thats it. Prettyboy you mentioned that in a disagreement the man has the final say so. Well if both people have entered into this union appropriately it stands to reason that they have both prayed and gotten an answer from God making him the final authority. It goes beyond the man "just being a good man", he has to be a God man for me to allow him to lead. And that only happens once I become his wife. Don't expect me to play a part you haven't offered to me.