[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by BlueReign

I'm in agreement with you PrettyBoy. And that's not just from a religious perspective but from personal experience. I witnessed my mother being led and totally submissive and it turned me off growing up where I swore I would never be like that. So as determined as I was to "have my own" and "handle it all" I ended pretty darn independent. At 43 years of age, I HATE IT!!

I am thoroughly convinced that God did not design it for women to do it all. I CAN change a flat, paint a room, trouble-shoot my car for problems, break down tree limbs in my yard after a storm, etc. but the thing is I would RATHER NOT! I'm too pretty and delicate because God created me to be a female. (besides I don't want to break a nail )

Now before you sistas get on me, my stance on this is from personal experience and the lack of males in my life. I think someone mentioned it a page back that a woman can handle all of this and indeed we can, because I did and am still doing it. After the death of my father/brothers/and husband I have had to be the head of my family. Only with God am I able to do it and keep my sanity. I am not just running a household I maintain a house. This is not something I want to do as a female any more.

I am really trying to maintain relationships/friendships with men who step up and are willing to be the men that they were made by our creator to be. So I said all this to say, for the first time in my life I want to be led.

I couldn't have said it better. The last thing I want you ladies to think is that I'm down with ruling women with an iron fist. That's not the right way. Like I said before, she should be involved in every decison, because her input may be better, and a lot of times it is, just not all the time. My X did what she wanted to do, whenever she wanted. She had no respect for me at all, and at the same time, I lost respect for her. When the respect is gone, you can hang it up. I can't respect anyone who doesn't respect me, like I respect them. I can't get down with a woman like that. When a woman feels she has to take on the load, she will get frustrated and lose control everytime, without fail. She was not desinged to do that. I think a man should tell his woman/wife she's beautiful as much as he can, and give her the attention she needs. A man that treats his woman like this will more than likely be able to lead without too much of a problem. Depending on if he chooses the right woman. I just chose the wrong woman. I treated her like a queen and did the best I could with the resources I had available to me, but it wasn't good enough for her. The reason why I'm so picky.