[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

i think my mom is just the type of person who was happy in that situation. now me?? or either of my two sisters?? hell naw. it is an equal walk. i dont do anything major without him, and vice versa.

someone, i think Prettyboy, said that women arent designed to "take on the load"...what the hell? not only are we designed to do it, there are just as many of us actually doing it as there are men! like i said earlier, and i will say it again...women need to know how to run a household. if she is willing to sit back and let her man make the decisions, she may be in for a world of disappointment.

"honey, pack the house up, we're moving to Canada because i said so!" it seems funny, but i have a girlfriend who has 5 children, living 250 miles away from home while her husband aka head of household, is off working at a job he could have easily gotten here where we live. she is alone, no car, no job, no spending money, no cable, no neighbors...see where i'm going with this? she was "submissive" because thats what her mother told her she should be. she loves her family but she's miserable...what about her needs? being head of household should first and foremost incorporate the other persons wants and needs and feelings.

too many men feel that "submissive" equals "i do what i want, when i want and you cant do anything about it".

Leading doesn't mean ruling with an iron fist. Submitting doesn't mean she's his servant. They can walk side by side, but again walking side by side means for her to submit to my lead, and I am to submit to her needs. You ladies can think what ever you want to, just make sure you get a man that is cool with you leading and running the household. I know some men like that. Hey, if they're cool with it, then that's their business, but in my relationship, I'm the man and I'm the one who makes the final decision. When I'm with a woman, I'll do anything for her. I want to make her happy at all costs. I'm not perfect, but I do my best, with what I have. I'm faithful, and I'm a one woman man, always have been and I always will be, but I was raised to lead my woman, and to only know when to listen to her. I'm not saying she'll submit everytime, but that's why relationships take work. But again, if it works for you ladies runnin the show, go ahead and run it. Good luck.