[pinkies up]

Let me just say that it's how a man leads. It takes patience first and in my situation, a lot of small compromises. I thought being led was losing who I was as a strong woman. I soon realized that it's a stronger woman who allows her man to be the man. Don't just say "Me man, you woman" and beat your chest like Tarzan. Explain to her why and SHOW her that you are worthy to lead her and the family. Your decisions should be in the best interest of the family. Sometimes it's the women some of you men seek out to try to make into a wife or a woman of substance. Women aren't without fault either. Sometimes we're afraid that you'll take our meekness or softsides as a sign of weakness, so we build concrete walls to protect ourselves. Once the conversations become more about building together and less about tearing eachother down, our community will once again be something to be admired and not talked about in negative ways.