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Originally Posted by jelly
They say there is a sorority for everyone so i'm thinking about rushing. The girls in my high school that are joining sororities are the so call "popular" girls which is kind of deterring to me b/c I don't know if it is something I'd fit into.
It seems as if these girls just want to join one just to continue that feeling of being "popular" and "cliqued off" from the rest of the people in college maybe b/c that's where their confidence lies.
Also, I don't know how to put this really but you can say their moral values are not very high...and I was wondering if this is in general how the girls in sororities were.
And my last sort of question/concern was what is the relationship between the fraternities and sororities? Do the drunk fraternity guys at the parties try to hit on you and stuff? (ew lol)
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You sound like my story. I was the most unpopular girl in the entire high school. My self-esteem was lower than any potato still left in the ground thanks to both my mother and the "in" group. When the material for rush came (yes, in my day it was still rush, not recruitment), it all went right in the trash. I was not going to start off a new school with the "in" girls doing to me what they did in HS (and junior high, and elementary school). My relationship with my mother was pretty awful to put it mildly. One day she and I had a knocked down dragged out fight and all I wanted to do is get out of the house as soon as possible. I happen to see the rush materials still in the trash can in my bedroom and pulled them out. They said that one dorm would be open a week early for rush, you could stay in the dorm if you dropped out of rush but you were obligated to go through the first day parties. I signed up then and there just so I could get out of the house. I figured I could force myself to put up with the snotty girls for a day and then I would just enjoy the beach everyday. The first house I went to was KD and I really like them but went away telling myself that all the houses will come across that way and still had no aspiration to pledge (yup, I just dated myself again). At the end of the first day, KD was really the only house I truly loved and decided to stay in rush until KD dropped me as I knew they would. To my surprise, I kept getting asked back and to my real surprise I joined! The girls in the house killed almost every stereotype I had ever heard about sororities. Today, many years later, I am a past president of my local AA, and am now on the National Leadership Team.
I have a daughter who is a bit older than you, she did not want to go through recruitment and I never pushed it. I just made one rule when she went away to school and it is the one rule I would give to any girl who goes to college-- you have to join something and do something. You can't just sit around in your dorm room. Get involved!
Best wishes with your decision.
DaffyKD