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First of all, as a black man, I'd like to point out that I think it cuts both ways. On the one one hand, we have our black women, capable of almost anything, who have carried our race since "forever". On the other, we have the "independent" woman, whose said emancipation scares men away. Let me say something which will probably cause controversy.
Personally, I'd rather have a strong, "independent" woman, one who is capable of holding it all down, family-wise, if something ever happened to me. Most importantly, as has been alluded to in earlier post, the term "independence" is subject to different definitions. Give the average black homemaker a shot in the workforce, and I'll bet good money that she'll make it.
Bottom line is a woman being independent is no excuse to leave our woman single, nor is it just cause to cheat, as in "Soul Food".
There are worse things to contend with in today's society for a black man than to have a strong, "independent" woman. I admit, I'd love to give my baby everything she wants, to pamper her head to foot; Nevertheless, her strength will always be a turn on. I know I'd always be number one to her, and vice-versa.
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