[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by marquise1911

Yesterday at the Bar-B-Kue I was looking around and just watching. I noticed something that made me scratch my head. A lot of my older bruhs (35+) were still unmarried. As a matter of fact I could only count on one hand the older Nupes I know who are married. A lot of my bruhs have children (as evident by the droves of lil ones running a muck in dat park). A lot of my bruhs have women, but not wives (can't remember the last time I met a Silhouette). This felt like a glimpse into my future, as i am now back on da market with no aspirations of remarriage.

Ladies and Gents. What happened? I know this problem reaches far out of my fraternity. Black men period! I don't know many of my peers period who are in positive long term committed relationships or married. How will our people ever mend our family structure when we no longer value one of it's most essential ties.

Nupe, good question. I really don't know man. I don't know what's wrong with relationships today. It seems like everyone is scared of serious relationships. Including me. I was single for 4 years because I didn't want to get involved in another relationship that wasn't going to work out. I think that's part of the problem. People just don't like getting hurt, and once it happens then we don't want to try it again. Now a days no one seems to want to work on relationships. They take a lot work. No one wants to make that sacrifice and they do take sacrifice. If both people aren't willing to do it, it won't work. The divorce rate is high, because people want to call it quits after a few arguments. My last relationship was about money. She liked the kind of money I didn't have. That's a big issue now. Back in the day it wasn't like that. Couples worked through all of that. I really don't think it's going to happen if people aren't willing to settle down with one person and stay with that one person, of course unless they cheat or abuse is involved. The title of this thread is perfect, because that's basically what jokers are doing now is sleeping with as many people as they can. I honestly really don't think anyone likes going from person to person. People just aren't wired that way, at least most of us aren't. I think most people want that serious relationship, we just let our insecurities get in the way which destroys all possibilities of even starting a serious relationship. My 2 cents.