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Obviously it depends on the two people involved, but I'm friends with guys I was previously involved with, and not friends with others. One guy in particular I tried repeatedly to be friends with after the fact, I had no desire to be in a relationship, and it helped that we lived far from each other. However it didn't work because he is just a crappy friend. I saw that in general he wasn't a good friend to anyone, and even if we never had dated he'd still be a major flake and a waste of my time. Then there is another guy I dated, and we run in some of the same social circles so we're very lucky that we're mature enough to let it go, and even laugh about how mismatched we were as a couple, but are really better off as friends.
The key for me is to not want to date them anymore, to not harbor any anger about things that happened (or be looking for an apology, agreeing to not discuss anything that went on ever again was helpful), and to honor the qualities that make a good friend, if they have any. Know when to cut your losses and move on.
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