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Originally posted by bluz4
crucialcrimson,
you are so right. i am speaking for myself and the friends that i have when i say this:
it seems that women including myself who have grown up in a single mother household are so "independent" that they don't know how to let a man in their lives. when i say that i mean that they don't know how to let a man BE a man and that can turn a lot of men away. i watched my mom raise me and my brother in a dynamic way that for a while caused me to say that i didnt want to get married because "i don't need no man." now that i have a boyfriend, i have to remind myself to let him do for me without feeling like i am giving up my independence or "self-stability." i'm not talking about opening doors or paying the check at dinner (well yea that too), but i mean letting a man into your heart and soul and being. that can be heard and something that a woman must work at constantly especially if she didnt have that mother-father thing growing up.
i know that my friends and i talk about it all the time. and i work at it constantly. but women must realize that you can have love and your independence at the same time.
thats just my $19. 20. sorry if that was too long.
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That is actually the point.......You can have both! Ladies do not feel a man is trying to control you when he does good things or spends money on you....men no matter HOW much money you spend you do not own these women, you must respect each others independence.
Allow each other mistakes without saying "I told you so!" all the time, in any form shape or fashion.
Sphinxpoet