[bluz4]

crucialcrimson,
you are so right. i am speaking for myself and the friends that i have when i say this:
it seems that women including myself who have grown up in a single mother household are so "independent" that they don't know how to let a man in their lives. when i say that i mean that they don't know how to let a man BE a man and that can turn a lot of men away. i watched my mom raise me and my brother in a dynamic way that for a while caused me to say that i didnt want to get married because "i don't need no man." now that i have a boyfriend, i have to remind myself to let him do for me without feeling like i am giving up my independence or "self-stability." i'm not talking about opening doors or paying the check at dinner (well yea that too), but i mean letting a man into your heart and soul and being. that can be heard and something that a woman must work at constantly especially if she didnt have that mother-father thing growing up.
i know that my friends and i talk about it all the time. and i work at it constantly. but women must realize that you can have love and your independence at the same time.

thats just my $19. 20. sorry if that was too long.