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A similar situation happens here, but it's with the Junior League.
Wife joins and is working with people she has known in the past through college, HS, or other orgs. She does meet new people, but a large number she interacts with, she has a "history with. She gripes and complaines about the other women, the work involved (there is a LOT of work) and the calls are more frequent than a tela-marketer. (Thy made an announcement at one of our meetings to TRY to NEVER CALL after 5:00!) He finds himself taking care of the kids while his wife is attending meetings, only to come home and gripe. One day, he puts his foot down and says, "Enough is enough!" If this was the way things went in the past, then I can see why he would be dreading you getting involved. HOWEVER here is the other scenario-
Hubby is the "take charge" type man. He is on his way up and feels everything should focus on career building. His friends are the ones invited over. Any plans of entertaining focus on his goals. You will soon find that you have NO FRIENDS of your own. You tolerate the wives of his buddies, but don't really have that much in common. He can go out and grab a beer, you aren't doing anything so you can watch the kids. After all, that IS your job! (This can escalate into real problems of control)
Best case-
You re in a position where you want to broaden your network, meet new people and continue growing. Hubby has concerns, because he knows you throw your whole heart into things. He's afraid it will take you away or make you unhappy...LIKE IN THE PAST. You must convince him that you want to give it a try. You NEED to be with others you have something in common with and if it creates a problem, you will rethink your involvement.
Many women quit the League because their husbands didn't like the amount of time it took and the fact that they had to feed and bathe the kids once a week. The women just formed other groups. You just have to find out what his REAL fear is and attempt to unravel his argument-You should have the freedom to give it a try without his negativity in other words...tell him to put a sock in it! (AT LEAST FOR A WHILE)
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