I'd say do what works for you to get the results you need. Such is the fight of life. Nothing's ever fair or right and in sororityland things can get downright ugly whether it's this or some other situation (homecoming with
those guys ?!
hell no! We're not having formal at
that hotel! If she gets initiated, I'll give back my badge!) We've all been there, done that, seen it, heard it, experienced some drama that in the end we look back and go
. I'm not there to know the situation to judge. Use what you got to get what you need.