[adpiucf]

I realize I come from one of the "larger" chapters, but in all honesty... recruitment is a blur. You maybe meet 10 women in the chapter during the week, and prob. only remember half of them. Come Bid Day, there are a lot of strange faces.

If it's as drastic as 30% of the chapter disappearing and reappearing on Bid Day, and those members looking drastically different than the rest, ok, that's weird. At that point I'd call shennigans.

But in a typical recruitment, there are several sisters who can be missing from the floor for several reasons: behind-the-scenes work, study abroad, medical, emergency, conflict with athletics/band, etc. I don't think anyone can legitimately feel cheated on Bid Day-- you still have a couple dozen sisters and a couple dozen new members to get to know.

As far as the heavier women in your chapter-- I don't think it's a weight issue-- it's an issue of how you carry yourself.

At the end of the day, recruitment is a very superficial process-- you are having the most basic surface conversations, after all. If you are bidded, you have a 6 week period (approx) to determine if you're in the right place or not. Granted, you may not have an opportunity to re-rush in the future, but you're not locked in if the sorority you thought you were joining turns out to be something else.

And if anyone finds that unfair or horrible-- well, don't rush at those schools. It's not going to change-- you're trying to bring in 18-20 year olds as your members and you're trying to appeal to what's important to them. Sad as it sounds, while many are in it for the academics/sisterhood/service aspect, the look of a chapter can heavily influence someone of this age.

Those of us who are a little older may find the whole process silly or disturbing, but we aren't their target demo.