Spinxpoet,
It would be totally wrong of us to say that men are the only ones to blame for why relationships dont work. Its always easy to put the blame else where, but the challenge is to sometimes look at ourselves and see what we could do differently.
As for being independent and not wanting to accept help from a man, I have also heard alot woman say that they wont accept help because then the guy feels like he can control you. But I think there is also another reason behind why some women will not accept help. There are some men, who will offer to help, but then turn around a few weeks or months later and throw the fact that they helped you out at one point.. right back in your face. I personally dealt with that situation once, and I told myself from that point on, that I would do everything on my own. So if a man offers to help me out, Im very cordial and sincere when I say "no thank you"... Its not meant to turn him away or make him feel like I dont need him.
Thats just my 4 cents
