Decorum is a reference of esteemed intelligence and family origin. It is was developed in the Royal Court since Roman times and it is high society. You can think and behave however you choose, but in most civilized societies, people interact properly and appropriately in order to conduct business and communication.
Have you ever said any members of the NPHC that is respectful? Your mere comments to me state how you have choosen to denigrate and demean us, and then demand our assistance with our expertise.
When several other greek members have given you there "professional opinion" because they work in nonprofit and for profit organizational development, you have berated and insulted their intelligence. Then you choose to become defensive and deride us further.
Suggestion: Just stop posting on GC where NPHC members frequent. That way, you will never have to worry about anything. Continue posting what you have written below and you will continue to cry about why we NPHC members seem not like what you say or how you say it. Keep is simple for yourself.
You can delete your posts. But once you put it out there, you cannot rescind it...
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Originally Posted by RozRochelle
To me, right is right and wrong is wrong. Period. Damn an allegiance. The more you all respond, trying to make everything that's happened here solely my fault (I jacked some stuff up, I admit that, but everything is not solely my fault and I truly feel that's what y'all want me to cop to, and that is not going to happen), the more I know that this whole debate is a moot point because in you all's eyes I'm "other", and as such I will never be in the right when it comes to any conflict involving another one of "you". So I took a Fukitol pill and I'm chilling. Y'all just do what y'all do, and I'll just do what I'm going to do. We ain't gotta be friends, friendly, or anything else, but I'm not going anywhere. I have as much right to be here as any of you.
I hear what you're saying here, and I agree. But, hear me: Protocol is learned. You learned NPHC protocol because you're in a NPHC organization. I'm not. Until I started my sorority, I wasn't even a greek and had zero knowledge about the inner workings of greekdom. It is unrealistic to think that a total newbie is going to know the many UNWRITTEN rules of NPHC protocol. Hell, the so-called written ones on here are wide open to interpretation, with the advantage going to the prophyte (I think that's the right term) over the neophyte in ALL things.
I started out on GC trying to be friendly and I never INITIATED a conversation with someone by being disrespectful or condescending. However, others - including you - initiated communication with me in that manner, for no other reason than I was new and maybe made a faux pas out of naivete. There was no benefit of the doubt or anything given me.
You all had a preconceived idea about me - based on past experience with new orgs and their members who came on here to start trouble - because I was new and repping a new org. So, despite you all's so-called dislike of stereotyping, you stereotyped me, and lumped me in with the "enemy", and treated me accordingly. THAT was when my attitude changed, and if the truth be told, my attitude has only been negative with those who have approached me negatively, FIRST.
Just because I'm new to this does not give any of you the right to insult me and be condescending to me. And if you think I'm going to sit back and grin and drool like a simpleton, and ask for more please, while y'all shove disrespect down my throat, you have another thing and another think coming.
Y'all just do your thing and let me do mine. Neither the twain need to meet.
PEACE
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