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Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX
Rhoyal, this is the reason i left this thread alone about a week ago. i completely agree with your last comment. i do respect anyone in any GLO that has put in the time and energy to make it a better one for everyone involved. i also understand that those of us in newer orgs have a long way to go. i think that we also sometimes get the feeling that we didnt try a D9 org, or felt as though we wouldnt belong. that is not always the case. there is an org that i considered before i chose the one i am in now. i cant explain my feelings as to why, because then you would be able to figure out who it was, but i am putting as much work into SBX as i would have as an XYZ. i never felt they were superior, uppity, stuck up, etc. i just decided to choose a different path for myself. i think that is the underlying reason a lot of us go different routes. i am sure myself that some people have the attitude of "oh, they didnt accept me so i will do my own thing", and that is to be commended too, but NOT with an attitude, and NOT just because someone else rejected them. we newer orgs have to respect the older ones, because despite how different we say we are, there is the same basic premise underneath it all.
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And this is fine...no explanation needed. I think NPHC members are just put off by those who claim to be sooooooo different from us or that seek to present their orgs as an alternative to us because we're so this or that. Like I said in an earlier post, when I talk about why I joined Sigma Gamma Rho, I just talk about Sigma Gamma Rho. I don't talk about why I didn't pursue the other NPHC sororities. When you start making negative comparisons, it only looks like you are putting another group down in order to lift yours up. If your org is as great as you say, there is no need to put anyone down regardless of what you've personally observed or experienced. As big as the NPHC orgs are, there are likely to be some members who don't present themselves in the way that the majority of us would like, but it's not fair to label an entire organization or group of orgs based on personal encounters. The rule is basic...treat others as you would want to be treated...so if you don't want to be labeled and stereotyped, don't do this to others.