[RozRochelle]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

RozRochelle,
Everyone can't be misinterpreting your statements. At some point you have to acknowledge that what you wrote was indeed what you meant. The biggest thing in communications is not what you think you said, but how the receiver interpreted it. And the onus to fix that falls back on the sender.

I meant what I wrote to you. But, I really was not trying to be rude or defensive when I responded. You just can't hear it how I hear it in my mind when I'm writing it. Tone and vocal inflection don't carry over to print. I would much rather someone just ASK me how I meant something rather than assuming the worst. The onus isn't just on me. People shouldn't jump to conclusions and/or put words in other people's mouths, either.

The thing I am struggling with is what will your sorority offer your members after graduation? I was in my collegiate chapter for two years. I have been in an alumnae chapter for 36 years. In other words Delta didn't go anywhere.

Theta Gamma Pi will offer the same things other sororities offer their alumnae members.

So serious questions: what is it that your sorority offer your members during their college years that they can't find in a support group or another such student organization? And what are your plans for the future?

With all due respect, I'm not going to answer those questions. Not because I don't have answers, but because I don't feel I need to justify my sorority's existence, and I feel that answering these questions would be doing just that. I will say this much: I asked myself these same questions and did some recon before going forward.

Lastly, folx on here seemed to be pretty supportive of your sorority until you started coming off defensive. And don't ask how could I think that. Read what I wrote above. The onus is on you.

There have been 2-3 times where I truly have been defensive. However, in those instances, I was approached first by persons who were disrespectful. Any other times anyone thinks I've been defensive is probably because tone and vocal inflection don't carry over to print.

I didn't come to GC looking for support for Theta Gamma Pi. So, while GC support is welcome, it's not required or necessary. The world is bigger than GC. I think that point of view is what angers people. It's funny, GCers say don't justify your org and just do you and yadda yadda yadda. But when someone actually does that, especially unapologetically, they catch hell.

Oh well, such is life.