[SkiingSister]

I was never bragging about what I did. I am just saying that it came be done.

Someone mentioned that they could check my status. Not with my academic files being locked. Several months ago, I had a background check done for a job that I was poised to take (turned it down for a more money somewhere else) and after all of these years, that lock my files was still there. If my records were acquired, it have been been a breach of privacy and very well been done illegally. There is no way that anyone could have found out my status. Unless, you had girls stalking me around campus or were in my classes. They weren't.

As for posting here and doing disservice to my GLO, no one here knows what chapter I was in. You can look at my posts and think you know but you don't. I know about a lot of GLo's at other schools. My friends are from all over.

I think a lot of the concern on greekchat is that my story may give Greek life a bad rep. Maybe. Maybe not. It is what it is. I had some really good experiences and a really bad one.

For those who are concerned that I am recommending PNM or AIs...get over it. I am active within my community and various organizations. As one friend put it "SkiingSisters friends are always so nice and down to earth. She knows everyone." Seriously, it has been said.

Snowball's chance in hell that they would let me leave early if I hadn't lied. My chapter was low on numbers and money. There was no way that they would let people go alum early. They used to be more lenient but it cost them numbers which meant money. One girl was studying abroad for a year on a university program. They wanted $900 out of her to stay active while she away or she would have to quite. She promised to be a paying sister when she came back. Why pay for something that you are not being a part of, nor enjoying. For her it was pay $900 to stay active or use the money for a plane ticket. She chose the plane ticket, studied abroad and I still consider her a sister to this day. So, yah, I knew what I was up against.

Would I have done things differently? Yes. In a ton of areas. But, I have learned so much from my experience; group dynamics and how to deal with people. I am also proud of my affiliation. I look back and knowing the history of the organization, I think it might have been the best fit. I know that I can't change past but I can make the future. If I hear of another girl in my situation having a bad experience, I will be the first one there to hear her out. And it will be discovered early on, not when it is too late. She won't fall through the cracks. I would also add that Greek life changed from the time my parents were it in it to the time that I was in. They were surprised at all of the stuff that goes on. Both parents, who are in GLO's, knew what I was doing and never told me not to do it.

I think it is great the my story has spawned some debate and more importantly discussion.