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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy
This is kind of long, but try and answer all of the questions if you can. These questions are for the women and men.
1. If you met a man/woman and you knew he/she was talking to another man/woman, but not seriously involved yet, they were just dating and talking. Now, you really found this person very attractive and you loved this person's personality. Would you try and steal him/her away by competing with the other person, or would you just not get involved knowing he/she is seeing someone else?
2. Lets say you met a man/woman and he/she was in a relationship with someone else. You just happened to work with this person and you two always would go to lunch together. Now, remember you are really attracted to this person. Would you try and steal him/her or would you keep it on a friendship level?
3. Last question. If your fraternity brother or sorority sister or friend's relationship didn't work, and you always thought he/she was very attractive, and that person started to like you. Would you go ahead and get involved with him/her knowing you're friend sorority sister or fraternity brother still had feelings for him/her or would you keep your distance?
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I'm probably in the minority, but I don't see the problem with #1 (well except for the whole "competing" and "stealing them away" thing). If I met a guy and he's not in a committed relationship, why isn't he free game? What happened to dating? As long as all the parties know that its not monogamous, I don't see any issues. I just don't like the "competing" and "stealing away" thing, because it implies that you're doing something wrong. If I met a guy and we click, I'm not going to compare myself to any other woman he may be seeing. My behavior and interaction with him won't change just because he may be spending time with someone else. IMO, no one has a claim on anyone unless they've decided to be monogamous.
I wouldn't do #2, if someone is in a committed relationship that should be respected.
#3 is also out...there are too many fish in the sea to risk ruining a friendship.