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I am JUST guessing here, but am betting they are recent alum? Get an alum that they know but that is significantly older to talk to them. Haven't seen that happen to us but I can see how easy it would be for it to. And there are some things that new members don't need to know. Not because they are kids or because they are stupid, but because if they find out about something negative that happened prior to their involvement they might let that keep them from giving their new organization a truly open minded chance and it makes them more of a drop risk. If it's something that will effect them directly, that's one thing. Gossip is another.
I think advisors tend to try to run things because they think they know best and, honestly, they most likely do on many matters (especially on business matters and such...I think membership is the only thing they might not be so knowledgable about as usually an advisor isn't around enough to truly know the woman or women involved and the situation, so the collegians who have been should be doing all the deciding). But it's true they should remember that the chapter belongs to the collegians and not to them. They can advise...but shouldn't expect the collegians to make the same choices they would every single time. On the other hand, collegians need to remember that they have the right to (respectfully) stand up to a renegade advisor. I imagine if the issue is brought up in a mature and respectful manner it might stop. It's possible the advisor didn't even realize what he or she was doing. ..they might have thought that their advice wasn't pushy at all while the collegians might resent it, and a nice conversation could solve the misunderstanding. And if not, action can be brought to replace the advisor.
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