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Originally Posted by ladygreek
This is an interesting discussion. My best friend, my daughter and I were having a discussion about why none of us were married or in a serious relationship. All three of us are attractive, have good jobs and own our own homes.
My daughter, with her wise self said: we could have all been married if that is all we wanted. But we wanted more and we wouldn't settle. It is not all about looks, income, etc. with a man, it is about how they treat us and respect us.
She went on to tell me she is so glad I did not marry her father, who is an alcoholic, because she would not have had the loving life she has had with just a single parent. I had to sit down on that one.
We know too many women who marry for the sake of being married and end up divorced with children five years later. Why? Because deep down inside all they really wanted was the wedding and the status that goes along with being Mrs. so and so.
So should we be judgemental? IMO no, because that implies judging the book by its cover. Should we be discerning? Absolutely. If you start reading the book and it does not appeal to you, then put it on the shelf and find a new book to read.
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This is intersting you say these things. Your daughter is truly wise and will probably be married soon than you think!
My now husband and I eloped to be married to my husband because of what our families would have done to our wedding: too big, too many people, gifts we would need or want. It would not be the event we have dreams about. And now, 4 years later, I am still proud to be with my husband...
My husband, if he was single, could have been one of those guys. Label himself as an animal technian--the one who cleans the cages and put his hand up cow's behinds... He was told that "he's a nice guy, but..."
Then he has truly enriched my life and treated me well...