One note.
I would never try to tell a woman that she had to give birth to the baby she was carrying if she didn't want to. That is her heart, her mind and her womb. I feel differently, but I am not her.
So why would someone feel comfortable telling a greiving mom that her baby wasn't even a real person? I know my baby was real to me the minute I found out I was pregnant. And this lady's baby was only 3 weeks shy of delivery. She carried that baby almost to the end. I can only imagine how real that baby was to her.