One note.  
 
I would never try to tell a woman that she had to give birth to  the baby she was carrying if she didn't want to.  That is her heart, her mind and her womb.  I feel differently, but I am not her. 
 
So why would someone feel comfortable telling a greiving mom that her baby wasn't even a real person? I know my baby was real to me the minute I found out I was pregnant.  And this lady's baby was only 3 weeks shy of delivery.  She carried that baby almost to the end.  I can only imagine how real that baby was to her. 
