Not only in the DST forum but also in OPP. The topic of Coleman Love is not "tired" per se but there are always other aspects debated. It usually gets out of hand because dissenters of Coleman Love debate with embracers of the Coleman Love.
If you still need help after reading the various threads, please let us know.
Not knowing your situation or anything, let me say this: Love your boyfriend, LOVE DST & ME
, and IF you want to embrace COLEMAN LOVE -- GO FOR IT!!