Wow. I don't even know where to start.
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Originally Posted by Empress0105
i think we are either being too polite on this forum, or we as a whole are just simply in denial or are treating this issue like the elephant in the room.....no, i don't care how many women, men or shims are in alpha phi omega, but i DO think that MY sorority needs to take a look at how this could potentially affect us.
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Soror, I would like to know how this decision is going to affect us as a whole, I really do. Because I want to take a look at it, but give me something to look at. No disrespect or hostility soror, maybe I am missing something. I don't think I'm in denial about anything because quite frankly, there's nothing to be in denial about. I think the sorority is doing just fine, we are growing and doing what we need to do to succeed. Call it polite or what have you, I'm just callin it how it is. We should not let the actions of a few stop us from doing what we need to do. That is not only on the National level but on the local level as well.
I think Senusret NAILED IT with this:
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Originally Posted by Senusret I
For as often as I have heard of disrespectful APO women, I have heard of the same of GSS. I wish both sides would see that they are being PLAYED by insecure men who don't respect the equality of Brotherhood or the distinct identity of a completely separate organization. It is those men who need the stern talking-to -- if they get it together, then GSS women would not feel the need to be defensive (yes, defensive) around women of APO, and women of APO would not feel the need to be on the attack (yes, attack).
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What else is there to say? Better yet, why is it even that serious for my sorors and the female members of APO to even have a beef? If we are two separate organizations that clearly operate differently, why? Part of the reason is because people are gettin gassed up to dislike each other. What are we as women getting accomplished in our organizations when we're wasting time worrying about what the other is doing? Just last week I saw this group on Facebook titled "Yes, We Are Black Women in APO and No, We Are Not Gamma Sigs". I was looking at it like, "Is it really this serious?" Perhaps it is. From what I see, the female members of this frat are tired of being disrespected; they are tired of being told that they aren't truly members of their own fraternity; they're tired of being told they can't do this, they can't do that. Could you blame them? As a Gamma Sig I know I'm tired of seeing my organization be used as a "way out" of some of Alpha Phi Omega's policies...colonies are getting started so that chapter can be all male. As a Gamma Sig, I'm tired of meeting members of APO, fellow black women I might add, that almost immediately look at me with distrust or uncertainty about how I might treat them? So, could you blame me?
There's a lot of UNTRUTHS out there about both our organizations. I may not agree with some things about the fraternity--particularly the latest decision about "forcing" co-edness. My personal opinion? I think chapters should have the choice to let the chapter be whatever it's going to be, whether it's all-male, co-ed, or all-female even; but don't make a mandate out of it. However, that shouldn't dictate me in how I treat a female member of APO. What does my opinion have to do with me SPEAKING to someone, or how I treat them?
Luckily for me I grew up. And realized that in the big scheme of things, this is PETTY and TRIVIAL and as women in organizations of SERVICE and LEADERSHIP, we need to do better!!