James, you are hardly a "mere" boy LOL
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I think women are more concerned about things like this in general than men are...just a difference of the sexes.
And it SUCKS that if you are in a chapter that is smaller, and enjoy the fact that it's smaller, you are made to feel that's not OK and numbers are all that matter. Under pressure like that it's no wonder some groups have trouble recruiting. Some people want to be in a sorority of 200...some want to be in a sorority of 20. As long as you and the other members are happy, that should be all that matters.