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Kev,
People usually take the high road and say they don't want to break up because they don't want to hurt the other person . . . but if we were all a little more honest with ourselves we would realize that we don't want to break up because we don't want to deal with the scene.
We don't like direct uncomfortable emotional confrontation, the thought is pretty bad. We don't want to feel guilty or defensive. Also, a lot of pople don't really want to be alone so they second guess themselves when it comes to burning a bridge.
As far as the player vs. Nice guy or gentlman, a lot of people seem to think these are two completely different sides of the spectrum.
You can be smooth and still be a nice gentleman, and you will pick up a lot of women that way, just as many as if you were the proverbial jerk. But if you are wishy washy, your just not going to date as much. It sucks but its true. The meek may inherit the earth, but probably not until everyone else is finished with it anyway.
We should never expect a new universe to be born to make up for our lack of skills in the existing one.
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