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Originally Posted by Leslie Anne
Many of you have said that unless the legacy is an obvious bad fit with the chapter she should be given a bid. I agree, but I'm wondering about what you would all think about a situation that occured at my chapter.
We had a legacy come through whose older sister was an active member of the chapter -- she had just been initiated the year before. I think it's even more important to give that type of legacy due consideration. Well, she was cut. She was a rather large girl.
She didn't pledge any sorority at all and I don't think it was her size either. There were 17 other chapters on campus and I'm sure she could have been bid. I think she was just too devastated to continue with Recruitment. So, in this case, the pressure to pledge her legacy group was way too much for her.
Personally, I thought cutting the girl was wrong and it ended up being the second to the last straw before I ended up taking alumna status. What would you have done or thought about the situation?
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I think that's horrible. Especially the part that council (I assume you're talking about your chapter exec board/council, not your national council) and advisor didn't let the chapter vote. That's messed up in ANY bid situation, good or bad outcome.
Then again, if she would have been the ONLY girl in the chapter who didn't look like a model, she would have had to put up with the whispers behind her back of "She only got a bid because she's a legacy! Isn't it obvious?!" and that would have worn on her self esteem too. Especially if she wasn't able to make good friends among some of the other sisters.
Did her sister stay active?