[AOII Angel]

Well Squirrel...I'm really touched by your concern for my reading comprehension, though, I'm sure after my 26 years of schooling that my education level is a bit higher than yours. If you'd actually look back at my posts you may see the error in your reading skills. Since you like numbers, I will number my examples.

1. I simply gave an example of general rules adopted by each group on my campus. I gave reasons why they may have been adopted...etiquette and all. I never said that a ban on eating while walking was a rule of any group on my campus....you are confused by later posts by other members. I also never said that doing any of the prohibited things makes you a bad person, gets you kicked out or any other retribution other than being politely reminded of the rules. I never said it was "vital" that no one drink on the dance floor. My only point was....rules are rules. Follow your chapter rules...if you don't like them, change them. Sisters who just choose to consistently break chapter rules willy nilly (whether these silly rules or bigger ones that I'm sure your chapter would recognize) are not good sisters any more than a "born again Christian who blows off all her duties and continually hurts other sisters by her lack of support." (As quoted from 33girl's post.)

2. I certainly did not generalize that every one of your school's sorority members where sluts or crackheads. I actually said that you may have openly risky behavior on your campus that is not frowned upon, but at many campuses, especially small ones, this type of activity will kill your chapter's reputation. Is that necessarily right? Maybe not, but people do judge and judge frequently!

3. I brought up that we had people in my chapter who slept around and experimented with drugs. It's a common occurence on most college campuses. My point was that my "nit picky" chapter didn't run around expelling or ostracizing members for making adult decisions that we didn't agree with. The common denominator was that despite the choices they made, they kept it their own private business. I knew about some of these things only because I was close friends with some of these girls, not because it was common knowledge. Sure secrets are only secrets when kept to yourself, but sisterhood means you can occasionally share your bad decisions with someone else. As for the broken jaw...we had no proof that it had to do with drugs....it was a rumor. She wasn't expelled because if she was doing drugs, she didn't flaunt it. For all I know the broken jaw was a tragic accident. Sisters close to her had a conversation with her about the rumors. No other incidents occured in the future involving this sister.

4. Image is important. Image is not more important than sisterhood. But, it is completely ridiculous to say that your school's chapters don't worry about image. You worry about image when you dress up for badge day, when you prepare for rush, etc. It doesn't have to be an evil word. At no point did I say that any chapter at my former school cared about image over the sisterhood in the chapter. My point is valid....bad image and reputation is generally the reason behind most chapter closures. I personally get sad to hear about any chapter closing...what a horrible experience for those sisters. Usually, though, their image was made for them by someone who was long gone by the time the chapter reaped the consequences of their sister's actions.

5. Generalizing makes you sound silly. That was my point. Jumping to conclusions about an entire campus because of a set of rules with which you don't agree is a disservice to other greek women. And by the way, you do make it sound like your campus is above the usual foibles of human nature. I don't buy it!

6. I don't disagree with all of your statements. "I'd like to think that people take their vows to remain sisters as seriously as their vows to behave themselves. For instance, if a girl is repeatedly getting drunk at frat houses and doing things she shouldn't, is it ok to just kick her out, no questions asked? In my opinion, no. It's everyone else's duty as sisters to attempt to help her; volunteer to go with her to AA meetings, volunteer to be a go between with parents if they are difficult, volunteer to keep an eye on her at parties, that sort of thing. If she is given a second chance and refuses ALL help from EVERYONE who offers it, then I think her membership should be called into question. I take sisterhood very seriously...on the other hand I'm also aware that as college students we all have very limited resources when attempting to help others." (quoted from your post.) I completely agree with this statement.