Correction to this post: its supposed to read " I know you are NOT slamming my reply. just clarifying.
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Originally posted by James
Hmm, I am rereading my post and I am not quite sure which part is pushy . . . Leaving out all the subtext of analysis, the post says: call her sooner rather than later. Ask her to a specific type of thing that is not time intensive, and if she is unable to attend, say you want to see her later in the week and try to give her the choice of days.
I am not sure there really is another way to ask a girl on a date. Unless the gril is really not comfortable with a direct approach to dating. i.e. she wants to just hang among mutual friends. Which is not dating its hanging.
I can definitely see a woman that is "on the fence" with a guy being put in an awkward spot. But honestly doing it this way cues the guy in on whether the girl in sitting on that fence.
The more we like somone the more we want to see them and you can tell really quick how interested a person is by how much and how quickly they want to see you. There have been girls that liked me that I woud rather play in traffic, than go out with. There are other girls that I have been so interested in I would have given up food.
Its really not in the best interest of a guy to pursue a girl that is lukewarm. Instead he could be putting that effort into a girl that is a lot more interested, rather than wasting time and energy.
I know you are slamming my reply  , but I would be genuinely interested in another approach that doesn't leave everything in some wierd Schrodinger's Box of relationships where no one really knows what is going to happen or where things are going. Kind of like the foundation of this thread. They guy was so not pushy he almost made the poor girl believe he wasn't interested. A simple . . . lets set a date and this thread would never have happened.
Take care,
James
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