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Originally posted by tridelta4ever
James, you are perfectly entitled to your opinion, and perhaps that strategy works for you. However, I know that if a guy tried that on me, I would most likely find him a little on the pushy side - as the tips you gave are right out of a sales manual. Confidence is GREAT, but I personally don't want to feel like I'm being cold called and forced/pressured into making a date that I would have to cancel later. It's my opinion that this approach might push away a lot of women - especially those who are "on the fence" about the guy who is calling. Anyway, this isn't to slam on you (so please don't interpret this as such), rather to give guys another perspective. Good luck, either way! 
Carrie 
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I can appreciate not wanting to presured by a pushy guy, BUT, if you make a date and then cancel, you suck. That is the absolute worst thing to do to a guy. It is comprable to a guy you were dating sleeping with your sister. None of his friends will ever like you again. Pledges to his fraternity will be told either the full story, or not to ask, and will generally avoid you. Then will have friends who are in other fraternities (at college, from back home, on greekchat, etc) and will tell them and then it keeps growing and growing. You be blacklisted by people who knew him, and everyone else will have a heads up and be wary and will think you are cheating on them, or will be suspicous.
Other than that, I agree. I'm not exactly Mr. Hot Shot and when I try to be I look like a jack ass. So I try natural confidence.
Billy