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About members with babies, I think that it might be something that the chapter have general recommendations on based on the campus culture.
On some campuses, it's going to be no big deal, and the group might encourage women to stay active.
On other campuses, and this might seem superficial and wrong, it's likely to cause harm to the chapter in recruitment and reputation, and since it's difficult to imagine on some campuses how a person would handle both obligations well (again, it varies a lot by the campus), maybe a particular chapter could have recommendations that a young pregnant member go alum.
I don't want to see chapters cut people loose when the women most need support and help, but at campuses where greek life is a pretty superficial endeavor of rush, reputation, housing and parties, it's hard to see how staying active would be in anyone's best interest.
Maybe because I don't have kids, I make it out to be a bigger deal than it really is, but once you're a mom, it seems to be that your priorities ought to be different, and at some campuses, staying active would reflect trying to hold on to a lifestyle incompatible with good motherhood.
Ultimately, the final decision should rest with the member, but I do think the chapter should try to have general recommendations in place before the issue comes up.
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