[honeychile]

It totally depends on the family, the amount of pressure, and the type of pressure. I was a Kappa legacy, obviously went ADPi, and it wasn't until this past summer that my mother finally understood the why I chose ADPi over Kappa. The pressure on me (the only granddaughter!) extended to my bedroom being light & dark blue, and a collection of keys on the one wall!

A close alumna friend of mine was a triple legacy. She just didn't feel as if she fit in, and was SO relieved when her legacy chapter cut her. Her grandmother freaked out, but my friend is really happy, to the point of having held international offices.

Then the story that a lot of y'all have heard - there was a five-generation legacy in my chapter, and she just did NOT want to be in a sorority! She did pledge, got initiated at Convention, then transferred to another school that didn't have ADPi. We knew she didn't want to join, but were told that that no possible way we could drop her. I don't see a six generation legacy happening - at least, not with her mother's prodding!

As for dropping a legacy just prior to or after Pref - wow! I can't even picture a circumstance where that would be appropriate, short of the legacy pulling a Lizzie Bordan!