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one of my pledge sisters was a legacy to three other sororities at fsu and two of her sisters were still on campus at the time. this young woman was extremely independent and wanted to make her own way. i think that she also wanted to avoid choosing one sisters sorority over another-no matter what, we were awfully happy that she joined our chapter.
my cousin's daughter joined her mom's sorority during her sophomore year-it was a disaster. she just never got into it-i remember her dad telling her one time that since he had paid for the meal plan at the house, he expected her to go over there and eat.she preferred staying at her apartment and cooking for herself. i think that she would have been much more happy in another chapter. don't get me wrong, the one she joined is a top group on campus, just wan't the right fit for her. i don't know if she joined them due to their reputation, or because of her mom-who did not pressure her to join any particular one.
my daughter rushed this past fall. i know that she truly gave all 5 chapters at her school a chance, but in the end she chose zta. now that she is about to complete her first year of college, she has gotten to learn the overall personality of each of the sororities on campus-she still feels that she made the right decision. she has friends in all the other chapters. since her recruitment, i have heard that some of the chapters are very wary of other sororities legacies, and are afraid to take a chance by extending them a bid. i think that there is always a chance that that will happen.
this happened to a zta friends daughter who rushed this past fall at a much larger university. she was being heavily rushed by one sorority who would be considered direct rivals to the zta chapter where she attends school. the party before prefs. they dropped her like a hot potato. she was bewildered because she thought they really liked her. her mom explained that they probably did, but that they were afraid she would not put them first on her bid list. she ended up pledging zta, which, truthfully had been her first choice the entire week and is very happy, but it really shook her confidence, because she began to doubt herself and her ability to read people. on top of that, the pnms learned right before the parties who had invited them back, so the pnms had little time to compose themselves if a favorite had not invited them back.
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