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Originally Posted by darling1
ive have come across plenty of new money negros that wear me out with their bourgie mentality. they dont have a pot to piss in and cant hold an intelligent conversation. they want to know your entire resume and go 10 rounds of negro geography. its ridiculous!
if you take the time to think about what you desire in a mate then you subject yourself to folks who will never meet your standards. if you assume that a formally educated person will provide you with a better life in a marriage than someone who isnt, you are mistaken and set yourself up for a string of shallow and loveless unions.
to me there is no fine line to this. a person who feels they are ready to be in a committed, intimate relationship with someone has to know what they want and the consequences of those choices. i often wonder if men or women who put on certain 'requirements' for a potential mate actually take the time to take personal stock. i have a feeling that many dont.
just my opinion.
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I definitely agree with you on this one. When I was younger and ignorant to the world around me I said I would never marry down. Once I got to college, I realized how many people out there were doing better than me without a college degree and it is their own motivation that promotes their success.
Now that I am older, my husband and I both have graduate degrees, but he is not from the same background that I am. The thing that matters is that we both have the same goals, can hold intellectual conversation, and regardless of the F'ed up situation, we can find a way out!
