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Originally Posted by FSUZeta
my daughter had been invited to go bowling with a group of friends, but the day of the event had to decline because she felt ill. a few days later, she ran into several of the guys who did go bowling and apologized to them for having to cancel. she asked them to give her a call the next time they go bowling and they said they would. as she was going on her way, one of the guys says,"hey, maybe we can grab a coffee sometime", and she said sure. then she realized that he meant coffee for just the two of them, not the other kids and it took her by surprise. she likes this guy as a friend, and only a friend. she would be happy to grab a coffee with him as a friend, but he meant it as a date.
the question is: does anyone have a nice way to say "i like you as a friend, but i am not interested in a dating relationship with you"? she and i had a discussion about this, and neither of us could come up with a gentle, kind way to say that. i have asked several friends and none of them had an answer either. anyone?
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This is a toughie...If she blurts out that it's a friends only thing, it could be that it is a friends thing, and then she would feel silly. He could turn out to be one of her best friends ever. All I can think of is that my mother always told me to be nice to these boys because you may end up sitting opposite them in that big job interview years down the road. It happened to her and her boss turned out to be a dear friend and helped her to become one of Sears first lady execs. years later..I told a guy that I was so nervous being around him that I statred to get a stomache...not so cool...His sister was pres of our sorority at the time and his uncle ended up being one of my professors later on in a very hard course...dang...When he whipped out his guitar and sang a song he had written for me and I had nowhere to look, I was over it. You always want the nice guy and then when you get him, it freeks you out. (I would go with being still in love with an old beau)