[Kevin]

What is wrong with telling the guy that she's not interested in dating him? Sometimes direct, honest communication is your best bet if you want to clearly communicate your feelings.

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

my daughter had been invited to go bowling with a group of friends, but the day of the event had to decline because she felt ill. a few days later, she ran into several of the guys who did go bowling and apologized to them for having to cancel. she asked them to give her a call the next time they go bowling and they said they would. as she was going on her way, one of the guys says,"hey, maybe we can grab a coffee sometime", and she said sure. then she realized that he meant coffee for just the two of them, not the other kids and it took her by surprise. she likes this guy as a friend, and only a friend. she would be happy to grab a coffee with him as a friend, but he meant it as a date.

the question is: does anyone have a nice way to say "i like you as a friend, but i am not interested in a dating relationship with you"? she and i had a discussion about this, and neither of us could come up with a gentle, kind way to say that. i have asked several friends and none of them had an answer either. anyone?