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Originally Posted by zenphi237
truly sorry i even asked  i didnt know it would be such a problem. |
In all seriousness, there are a few tough questions I would ask myself if I were in your shoes. (And I would recommend against answering those questions in a public forum, as you never know who might be reading...)
1)
Is the situation in your current organization something that can be resolved? Sorority life is not all roses and sunshine - both you and your sisters are all under the same stresses as any other college student (academics, family stuff, financial stuff, etc.), and conflicts do occur occasionally. When the incidents are forgiveable, working through them often strengthens the bonds of sisterhood. Be honest with yourself about your feelings regarding your current group and whether or not this is merely a temporary time of conflict.
2)
What are your reasons for wanting to join a sorority? Only by being honest with yourself about your motives will you be able to figure out which type of group (local or national) is right for you. Or, whether perhaps sorority life isn't for you at all.
3)
What is it about the national groups on your campus that you find unappealing? As Alpha Frog mentioned, at the local level its about the women in the chapter. Every NPC group has admirable ideals and does good things on a inter/national level. Quite possibly, the things you may not like about the 4 NPC groups already on your campus would extend to any other NPC group - if they came to your campus, functioning within your campus situation, drawing members from the same pool of students as the current groups. Just because you might think that XYZ sorority is great from observing them on another campus, does not necessarily mean that you would think XYZ sorority was great if they had a chapter on your campus.
4)
What about the other local groups on your campus? If there are no restrictions prohibiting you from joining a different local on your campus, it would be worthwhile to consider whether perhaps you might fit in better at a different local sorority. (Assuming, of course, that you reach the conclusion that you don't want to remain in your current organization and that the NPC groups aren't your cup of tea either.)
5)
What if Greek Life isn't for you? Greek Life is great, but its not for everyone. Review your reasons for joining a sorority in the first place - are there other types of organizations on your campus that could meet those needs?
These are just a few tough questions I came up with off the top of my head - at least by carefully reflecting on your answers, you might get a more clear idea about what you need to do. Ultimately, this is a decision you have to make yourself. (Well, the decision to leave your chapter and pursue membership in another group is up to you - obviously, the other chapters have the final say in whether or not you are invited to join!) Just be honest with yourself, and the answer should come to you.